“Appreciate all those you love, whether they be family, friends, colleagues or co-workers. When you do you will be ready to hold the hand of the world.” – F. Kusch 2013
Welcome to August! The theme for the month is “The Art of Being of Positively Selfish.” I have been writing and speaking on this topic for a number of years, and think now is the time to spread the gospel of the “Art.” It is based on the belief/philosophy that to live a full productive life you have to be “positively selfish” – first take care of yourself then you can take care of business or the important people in your life. Throughout my career of coaching and leadership development, I have found this to be at the very foundation of success and work-life balance. The client who understands and strives for balance between the two always seems to have an easier time achieving the success they desire. So for the months of August and September my blogs and coaching connections will focus on how to achieve “Art of Being Positively Selfish” while driving success and balancing your life.
There is a story Mary Anne Rademacher relates in her book , “Life Begins When You Do.” It is about the story of a lifelong friendship between Paul David Leopoulos and President Bill Clinton. She relates that Leopoulos’s daughter unexpectedly passed away after being hit by a drunk driver and before he could get to the hospital she died. Within an hour of Thea’s passing, Paul David received a call from the President. He wondered how Clinton found out so quickly, thinking he must be in Little Rock having told his pal “I’ll be there as quickly as I can.” Within a few hours, he strode in the door and did what friends do at times like this, he came, he stayed and when asked, he delivered the eulogy. Leopoulos later learned that when Clinton received the call about the tragedy he was in air space half way to Japan. He canceled his calendar, and flew to be at the side of his dear friend.
The bottom line is – we all belong to others in life. If we are fortunate like Paul David, our friendships cause us to belong to one another for a life time. No matter how busy or how important we are, no matter how occupied, we fly to be at our friend’s side when needed. Our ability to commit to those we belong to teaches us to understand the power of mutual belonging. The ability to love and be loved, to support and be supported, to cooperate and have people cooperate to achieve the same things is the cornerstone of the “Art of Being Positively Selfish.”
So my call to action for you is – consider your commitment to those you belong to. How committed are you? Would you cancel what you are doing, no matter how important to you or others, to be there for your friend? One of the people you belong to, and who belongs to you.
“What do we live for if it is not to make life less difficult for each other?” – George Eliot