I was going through some old files and stumbled upon what I think is a very thought provoking view of self esteem and self responsibility. You and I have the ability and the freedom to take control of the only thing we really do have control over and that is ourselves. Too many of us blame others, the government, “those people,” etc. for what causes us to not fully achieve our total potential. Take a few moments to read and then think about how Virginia Satir’s words impact you. Are you taking responsibility to be the best you can be? If not, you are wasting a wonderful opportunity to squeeze out all that life has to offer you.
My Declaration of Self Esteem
I am me.
I am unique. There’s not another human being in the whole world like me – I have my very own fingerprints and I have my very own thoughts. I was not stamped out of a mold like a Coca-Cola top to be the duplicate of another.
I own all of me – my body, and I can do with it what I choose; my mind, and all of its thoughts and ideas; my feelings, whether joyful or painful.
I own my ideals, my dreams, my hopes, my fantasies, my fears.
I reserve the right to think and feel differently from others and will grant to others their right to thoughts and feelings not identical with my own.
I own all my triumphs and successes. I own also all my failures and mistakes. I am the cause of what I do and am responsible for my own behavior. I will permit myself to be imperfect. When I make mistakes or fail, I will know that I am not the failure – I am still O.K. – and I will discard some parts of me that were unfitting and will try new ways.
I will laugh freely and loudly at myself – a healthy self-affirmation.
I will have fun living inside my skin.
I will remember that the door to everybody’s life needs this sign:
I have value and worth.
I am me, and I am O.K. I am free and responsible for me!
(Adapted from Self Esteem by Virginia Satir)