“Feed your relationship with positivity, with kind words, unconditional love and with loving kindness.” – Unknown
As the year ends, I thought it might be worthwhile for each of us who are in a meaningful relationship to consider what it means to us and how we let our significant others know the importance they have in our lives. Too often we take for granted those who are there for us through thick and thin. The old song that waxes, “you only hurt the ones you love” is sadly too often, too true.
Coming and going, separate and together, straying and staying on course, relationships are truly a shared journey. It is a journey that demands direction, undivided attention, unconditional love and the ability to navigate tricky waters. In a perfect world our most important relationships would provide us a safe port in the storm, one of comfort and groundedness, the feeling one has of going home again. Steve Duck tells us we are at the helm of our relation-“ship”. To that end, we share those moments, decisions and choices that will influence how we communicate and how we will relate. I believe that when two in a relationship act as one, the impact on the good, bad, mundane and extraordinary times in our lives is more positive and strengthens the bonds we share.
Make a commitment with one another to find joy in each other. Commit to doing the hard work to get back on course if (when) you lose your way. And finally, set realistic, achievable goals for the next 12 months that will guide you in your relationship. Above all celebrate together when you reach those goals.