“There’s one sad truth in life I’ve found
While journeying east and west –
The only folks we really wound
Are those we love the best.
We flatter those we scarcely know,
We please the fleeting guest,
And deal full many a thoughtless blow
To those who love us best.”
–Ella Wheeler Wilcox
The holiday season is upon us and what better time to reflect upon the relationships in our personal and professional lives. Too often, it seems, we tend to take the most important people in our lives for granted just as Wilcox states in her very poignant poem. Furthermore, we lose focus on the fact that the quality of our relationships is part of the core quality in our lives. Step back for a moment and think about the inner circle relationships of your personal and professional worlds. How much positive time and energy do you spend with them? When was the last time you told those in your personal world you love them and appreciate the real and meaningful difference they make in supporting you and making you who you are? Would you be the person or professional you are today without these key relationships in your life? I think not, rather, in my case, I know not. It is abundantly clear to me that my successes, my ability to cope and overcome challenges and adversity, my growth in career and life and all that I have achieved would be for naught without those important people in my life.
In this time of Thanksgiving and Christmas Spirit, I challenge you to make it a priority to let all of those who are the human foundation on which you stand know what they mean to you and how they have impacted your life. Get face to face with them, your best clients, colleagues, friends and family. This month, talk to them as well as your mentors, advisors and employees. Let them know the difference they have made for you. Make certain you speak face to face, or at the very least via telephone or Skype. Do not, I repeat do not, rely on technology. Email, texting or instant messaging will NEVER replace the two way communication that is at the core of relationship building or sustaining.
I will close today’s blog with a quote from Anthony Robbins which I think sums up my thinking:
“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.” –Anthony Robbins